In Buddhist training (lojong) we change our neurotic patterns by substituting a beneficial action in place of a negative one. For example, we could substitute sympathy for aggression.
In the middle of a disagreement we can actually pause for a minute, and think “Why don’t I let the other person talk for a while. I’m just going to listen.” Have you ever done that in an argument? That’s a real game changer.
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